Saturday 13 February 2016

Why Simple Girls are Not Considered Fashionable

Everywhere in the world specially in Indian society a Girls/Women  Physical Looks are given much importance .
Fair n Lovely is not just a fairness cream , its the mind set of people .
Every body wants to be fair  so that they can look lovely and beautiful .
Indian market is flooded with cosmetics and skin care products from all part of world .
We have products from USA, UK , Australia , Paris etc and not to forget our Indian brands ,
Ayurvedic products , Organic Products , Herbal products and what not .
Its a million dollar industry .
Through commercials and advertisements the products are advertised to such a great level that its hard for people to resist buying it .
Girls and women are spending a huge amount of money on these skincare products and cosmetics just TO Look Good .
Being a women I know how important it is to look good and presentable but that does not means one gets obsessed with it and it becomes motto of their life .
Again the question rises why is it like this ?
The answer is because of Pressure from society to look good .
As beautiful Girls and women are given more importance than the Plain Janes .
When you step out of your home , at your school , college , work place and  every where looks are given more importance , at that  time no body cares to know about the other good things like nature , behaviour , talent etc.
So because of this every body wants to look beautiful and gorgeous and spend thousands of Bucks on grooming .
In my opinion to some extent its ok but to get mad after it is foolishness.
Instead of working hard on looks one should  work on other aspects like getting proper education , learning many skills , building good relationships with others etc.

Now have a look at the way a marriage is  fixed in any Indian family ( of any religion , region , caste )
In case of arranged marriage , the Boys family will meet hundreds of Girls family to see the girl and just  on a table of snacks and on physical appearance of girl marriage  are fixed .
If  both the families  know each other then its good but in most of the cases alliances are from unknown and new families , so just by going the physical appearance of a girl how can they decide that she is Good ?
She should tall , fair , beautiful .
(These are the most important criteria )
Then one asks about education , qualification , job etc .
Next comes Cooking skill .
That's it .
No body bothers about a girls nature , behaviour , likes and dislikes .
Her dream , passion and her plan for her future .
No body asks about a Boy's Looks , height , colour etc.
So I just do not like this system .
The most important thing is Compatibility .
Since both of them come from different family  and are different individuals , emphasis should be given on likes , dislikes , choices and preferences .
So that later on there is no compatibility issues and they can spend a good life after marriage .

I personally know many cases of my cousins and friends where alliance was not fixed as the girl was not too beautiful .
She was not fair like having  Milky white complexion , she was not slim like a model and she was not gorgeous like a celebrity or film star .
They were simple girls with golden hearts , Good Qualification , Good moral Values , Excellent skills like Cooking etc .
They were working Professionals with  an excellent carrier growth but were still considered not too good just because they were plain Janes , were not super gorgeous like TV actors or Film Stars .
So my question is Why Simple Girls are Not considered Fashionable ?
Fashion does  not means wearing western dresses or wearing some absurd things which actors wear in movies .
One can look good and gorgeous even in ethnic wear or traditional Indian wear like Salwar Suit , saree .
One does not need to put tonnes of makeup to look gorgeous .
A simple make up or skin care routine can also make a person look good .
So I hate this hypocracy based on Looks.

I wear what I feel comfortable , I do makeup when I feel like , Not to impress any one But to feel Good for myself .

I work on my talent , I try to learn new things and skills so that I can be better person .
And I think everyone should do this .
They should stop thinking What others are thinking about them But rather concentrate on What makes them happy , giving a Damn to any one's look or thought .
Just to make a bunch of few fools happy and impressed one should not get stressed .

So Live Your Life The way You Want .
Be Happy the Way you are .
Learn  New Skills and Increase Your Knowledge .
Prove your Talent and Be a Role Model for Others .

An advice for every one

Judge Me Not By looks
As Looks are Deceptive
It makes my Talent  Overlook  and Defective
Widen your Looks and Be Perceptive .

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:
a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

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